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Reporter loses his cool when confronted with GOP stupidity
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▶ Soft baby goat love pile at Adamah Farm – YouTube
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❤ 7 years and no itch ❤
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Just Say No
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Bumpkins r us
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I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married | Pop Chassid
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The Fox Lie About the March on Washington GOP Invitations
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At the movies
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Lottery ≠ Tax
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NOT a Christian Nation… Get it?

Just Say No

If someone asks you for a favor and you have no plans to fulfill that request, tell that person NO.  Be honest about your intentions.  Do not ignore the plea. Do not keep him/her hanging.  That’s just RUDE.

Speaking directly may seem harsh, but it is the more emotionally healthy option.  For everyone involved.

Again, if you do not want to do something that someone asked you to do, just say no.  At least then the person requesting the favor knows where you stand and can move on.

 

I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married | Pop Chassid

 

I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married

 

Interesting article.  I could barely get past the crazy fact that they were engaged in two months and married in three.  But in any case, although I basically agree with the author of this piece, I have a slightly different take on love and marriage.

Yes, love is about giving to the other person… but more than that, romantic love (true love, not the infatuation of the first year for the very young) isn’t so much an emotion as it is a DECISION.  Love is a decision you make every day to put your relationship (in effect, a distinct entity) before your personal ego.  It’s a choice you make to weather the bad times — even when you’re mad (because you’re right and he’s wrong, or some other stupid thing that doesn’t remotely matter)… or you’re not “getting your needs met”… or it’s no longer fun… or you simply one day don’t “feel it.”

Be a grownup and get over yourself.

As a matter of fact, I think the whole “loss of passion” concept is childish, a way to justify laziness, basically a lame excuse.  Passion does not, and cannot, exist in a vacuum.  It has to be nurtured.  Even when you don’t feel it, if you’ve made that commitment, you work your ass off to bring it back.  There’s nothing magical about love.  It’s hard work.

True love means striving to give not 50/50, not 60/40, but 100/100 percent.  When the going gets rough, when “life” gets in the way, when illness or a family crisis or personal disappointments or money problems or any number of other challenges come up, you or your partner might end up temporarily giving less and/or taking more… but overall you both aim for 100 percent so that you’re always covered.

When both people in the relationship make that 100/100 investment, the return is huge.  And it is hugely satisfying.

At the movies

Earlier today, my mom asked me if I’d seen the movie “42” yet.

To which I responded, “Mom, you should never ask me if I’ve seen a particular movie YET; just ask me if I’ve seen it.”

Because — and this applies to ALL movies — chances are I haven’t seen it, and won’t ever.

Besides the unpleasantness of the modern-day movie theater experience (noise, filth, rudeness, discomfort, outrageous cost), I simply prefer episodic television to cinematic feature films.  I’m all about character over plot, and a well-written/acted/directed TV series allows for a gradual knowing of the characters and the opportunity to see them evolve. It’s exceedingly rare to find anything approaching that in a two-hour movie.

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