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I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married | Pop Chassid


I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married


Interesting article.  I could barely get past the crazy fact that they were engaged in two months and married in three.  But in any case, although I basically agree with the author of this piece, I have a slightly different take on love and marriage.

Yes, love is about giving to the other person… but more than that, romantic love (true love, not the infatuation of the first year for the very young) isn’t so much an emotion as it is a DECISION.  Love is a decision you make every day to put your relationship (in effect, a distinct entity) before your personal ego.  It’s a choice you make to weather the bad times — even when you’re mad (because you’re right and he’s wrong, or some other stupid thing that doesn’t remotely matter)… or you’re not “getting your needs met”… or it’s no longer fun… or you simply one day don’t “feel it.”

Be a grownup and get over yourself.

As a matter of fact, I think the whole “loss of passion” concept is childish, a way to justify laziness, basically a lame excuse.  Passion does not, and cannot, exist in a vacuum.  It has to be nurtured.  Even when you don’t feel it, if you’ve made that commitment, you work your ass off to bring it back.  There’s nothing magical about love.  It’s hard work.

True love means striving to give not 50/50, not 60/40, but 100/100 percent.  When the going gets rough, when “life” gets in the way, when illness or a family crisis or personal disappointments or money problems or any number of other challenges come up, you or your partner might end up temporarily giving less and/or taking more… but overall you both aim for 100 percent so that you’re always covered.

When both people in the relationship make that 100/100 investment, the return is huge.  And it is hugely satisfying.

At the movies

Earlier today, my mom asked me if I’d seen the movie “42” yet.

To which I responded, “Mom, you should never ask me if I’ve seen a particular movie YET; just ask me if I’ve seen it.”

Because — and this applies to ALL movies — chances are I haven’t seen it, and won’t ever.

Besides the unpleasantness of the modern-day movie theater experience (noise, filth, rudeness, discomfort, outrageous cost), I simply prefer episodic television to cinematic feature films.  I’m all about character over plot, and a well-written/acted/directed TV series allows for a gradual knowing of the characters and the opportunity to see them evolve. It’s exceedingly rare to find anything approaching that in a two-hour movie.

Design Overkill

Arts-and-crafts style elements add warmth and visual interest to a home…. but you don’t want to overdo it. Furnishing a craftsman bungalow with craftsman furniture + craftsman lighting/decor is akin to deep-frying pork steaks stuff with sausage, slathering them with gravy, and then topping that with cheddar cheese sauce and bacon. Although such a gastronomical atrocity might appeal to some people… so never mind.

Take a science class!

When Fear Mongering Wins the Anti-Vaccine Story

It’s now been proven that vaccinations have NOTHING to do with autism. The alleged causal nexus was based on a fraud, originated by a deceptive physician (who has since been stripped of his license to practice medicine) and perpetuated by a self-serving former Playboy model. It then rose to the height of urban legend because the saps out there, who tend to be as ignorant of chemistry/science/medicine as they are mesmerized by vapid blondes with silicone-enhanced protuberances, blindly accepted the hoax and eagerly joined the hysteria.

The latest admonition is nothing but a resurrected red herring. Yet, people all over the net are now (again) clamoring that something must be done!… that they will never vaccinate their children!… that it’s all a conspiracy on the part of big pharma!… that this court case PROVES culpability!

Um, no, not really. Court cases — in particular, civil lawsuits — often have little to no significance. Organizations routinely settle matters such as these out of court, because it’s less costly than going to trial. Settlements don’t necessarily signify acknowledgment of guilt OR actual culpability.

There’s only one conclusion I can draw about those who, in spite of the truth that we now know, stubbornly cling to the vaccinations-are-evil paradigm… So I feel I must say this:

PEOPLE! Stop embarrassing yourselves with this crap! You are being STUPID! Yes, there has been a rise in the incidence of autism… and although the WHY of it has not yet been identified, we KNOW that vaccinations have played no part! To be so easily swayed by propaganda and pseudoscience… to believe that Oprah is some sort of authority… to fall for every online hoax and fly-by-night “alternative health” website with articles penned by not even all that clever charlatans… is MORONIC by definition. And the fact that you simpletons think YOU know better than scientists, epidemiologists, doctors, and other folks who are actually educated in these disciplines would be laughable if it weren’t so scary.  Turn off your daytime television and go take a science class! Or any class for that matter.

I’m the last person to defend big business — biotech or otherwise — but the fact is, vaccinations are not evil. Quite the opposite. Our society is now blessed with near eradication of polio, measles, mumps, rubella, tetanus, diptheria, pertussis (whooping cough), viral meningitis, HPV, various forms of hepatitis, and other life threatening, often fatal, diseases ➞ all because of mandatory vaccinations. It’s called PUBLIC HEALTH.

To not vaccinate one’s child is not only irresponsible with regard to that child, but in the context of the larger community and even to the world population. It’s irresponsible in the extreme. Since this whole “I refuse to vaccinate my child” foolishness began, there have been upticks in the incidences of these serious diseases in our population. Polio HAD all but been wiped out until the ignoramuses jumped on the vaccinations-are-the-antichrist bandwagon.

I’m horrified that anyone would not vaccinate their children in this day and age. My perplexity at the brainlessness aside, I’m horrified by the irresponsibility of it all. In 2012 alone, there were 41,000 cases of pertussis in the U.S. (when there shouldn’t have been even 1), and at least 18 of those cases resulted in death! This could have been easily prevented!

These imbeciles are as bad as if not worse than religious zealots. How DARE they put other people’s children at risk to justify their junk science dogma!


Here’s the thing about me: I am not in the least bit shy about asking for advice, assistance, or helpful suggestions if I feel I need it/them. So if I DON’T ask, please assume that I do not want and would not welcome any of the above.

I rant for a living. Okay, maybe not literally for financial reward (heh, I WISH someone would pay me for engaging in such a satisfying activity)… but I rant because I can. Because it’s fun. Because it’s therapeutic. Sometimes my ranting behavior is simply “loud” opining. Other times, my rants are out and out bitch sessions. On (hopefully rare) occasions, they are pity parties. But unless they contain express requests for help, I am not asking.

If you get nothing else about me, please get this, and keep your helpful suggestions and advice to yourself. Thank you. 🙂

Redundant much?

When I come across content such as the following while I’m editing environmental/technical reports, my eyes just about roll out of my head:

“Five (5) copies of the report will be submitted to the responsible agency.”

Redundant much? Must we be hit over the head? Are you telling me there actually ARE people out there unaware of the fact that the word five equals the numeral 5??

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